why liposuction is a bad idea

why liposuction is a bad idea

[♪ theme music ♪] but before we get into thisepisode of the slumber party, just a heads up, we hadto re-upload this video. a lot of you guysdidn't get notifications on the previous slumber party, and it's because therewas technical difficulties. but if you did watchit, please watch this one from beginning to end. comment in the commentsbelow. like this video.

and subscribe to this channel. we are almost at 1million shameless boos. we are here for you. the reason why we makethese videos is for you guys. so enjoy this episode featuringjackie aina and tim bryan. welcome to anotherepisode of the slumber party. we got amy in the building,and we have jackie aina. maya: she is our special guest.jackie: how y'all doing? hi. yay. if you guys don'tknow, and i'm sure you do know,

jackie aina is atalented beauty guru. make sure you guyscheck out her channel. jackie: oh, stop it.maya: just click the i. today's episode is allabout beauty standards, not to be confused with beauty. so let me just read outthe definition i have here. beauty, bydefinition, is the quality of being physically attractive. qualities in a person or athing that gives you pleasure

to your senses. this is what it saysin webster. i don't know. beauty standards,however, i believe, is dictated by massmarketing, and to me, it's a form of brainwashing. you get enough companiesor enough people talking and saying that thisis the beauty standard, you'll be programmed to believe. this is why i havejackie here, because she

has a beauty channel, and you have a huge movementon redefining beauty standards. that's my wholemission statement. in my bio, it says, "changingthe standard of beauty one video at a time." my dad is fromnigeria, so he emigrated here, and my mom is american. so i have atwo-sided dimension of, i see americanbeauty standards, and then

i also see beauty standardsof africans from africa. it was more somethingthat i became aware of when i got older, morelooking at social media. my skin color, what skin colorsare more desirable over others. so beauty standards didn'treally affect you as a kid? jackie: not so much, honestly.maya: what about you? how was your -- for example,being an asian woman growing up here in america --what was -- did you -- were you affectedby beauty standards?

oh, yeah, totally what youwere saying about the whole lighter skin and kind ofwestern or caucasian features are really favored.that's especially true in asia. that's a big thing. pale skin -- having paleskin was such a big thing. maya: bleaching.amy: yeah, there's bleaching. skin bleaching. there's creamsto make your skin lighter. and when i was growing up,even though i lived in america, a lot of my friendswho were asian perpetuated

that idea of beauty, thathaving lighter, fairer skin was something tobe sought after. and so i wouldstay away from the sun. i would put on sunscreen.i would never go outside. and i thought that havingdark skin was looked down upon. but here in america,actually, having a tan is what everybody wants. everybody's trying to get tanand trying to get that glow. that coupled with abunch of other things

when i started growing up -- i just realized that, you knowwhat, you just got to do you and not care aboutwhat other people think. and it wasn'tuntil i embraced that that i realized that beautystandards are just phooey. that's the thing. beautystandards are arbitrary. and they vary fromculture to culture. and even people to people. so that could be true for theculture of some asian americans

living here, but then you go intoblack culture, where it's like, we want hips. we want curves.we want lips and all of that. and then it's justlike, i don't have -- [laughter] i'm serving you, like,athlete boy. i don't know. but for me growing up, beauty,to me, was long, flowing hair. as a kid, i had shorthair. it was like this, but kinkier, tighter curls.

i would throw pants onmy head with my cousin. and i'd be like, stop,stop chasing me, my hair. and he's like,you stop chasing me. but beauty to me washair, long, flowy hair. and then, even though iknow that "white is right," is what i was told as a kid, i guess because i knew i wasn't, it was never a concept thatmade me think, "let me try." maya: i wasn't phased by it.jackie: that's good. me neither.

and even the hair situation-- my hair was what it was, even though people wouldmake fun of me for my hair. but as a kid, i never was like,i want to straighten my hair. i was just like,oh, my hair is bad. but whatever. it's myhair. i just accepted it. first of all, iwas ugly growing up. not even just bysociety's standards. like, i was just not cute. it just took me a whileto grow into my features.

to grow into you. toher beauty standards. there's a picture of me. i looked liket-pain when i was 13. i looked like the femaleversion of t-pain, okay? "i'm-a buy you a drink." okay, you're going to send me --and we're going to intro him. jackie: no, i can't.maya: no, you have to. send it. [cross talk] and i'll insert my babyphoto. i look like a boy.

ladies, whorepresents beauty for you as a teenager growing up? jackie: like a role model?maya: sure. my mom. all shewore was lipstick. she was just, like,fly. just effortlessly. i would say my mom, butas a teenager specifically, i'd think of beauty and iwould think of celebrities. i loved tiacarrere in wayne's world. so random, but sheplayed the girlfriend of wayne.

she was the hawaiian beauty. i thought tia andtamara were beautiful, too. maya: yes.amy: mm-hmm. my mom, i'd have to say, too. i think most people, theirmothers, that's your first kind of foray into the makeupworld, and that was for me. okay, question for youboos at home watching. what is yourdefinition of beauty? and who would you saywas your beauty role model

as a teenager? and if you are ateenager, just say who it is. and if youaren't, go back in time. what do you guys thinkabout beauty standards and how it's marketed towardsus by these big conglomerates and these companieslike -- no offense -- but l'oreal, cover girl, allthese huge mega beauty brands? what is your perceptionof what they're feeding us? well, it'spropaganda. that's what it is,

especially when you getup to the big corporations in any industry, especiallyin the beauty industry. they're trying tomake a buck, you know? they're trying to make money. jackie: they're making money.amy: yeah. we live here in north america,and the standard of beauty here -- and i would say in otherparts of the world, too, in asia and even parts of africa,it's like, white is right. it's the long, flowyhair. it's the pale skin.

it's the light eyes. and i feel like that is beinghammered into these magazines, these shows, and nowthey're trying to make efforts to change that. but cosmo had a big,huge backlash when they had a magazine thatcame out and they had the beauty dos and the don'ts, and it just so happenedthat the beauty don'ts -- the don'ts was ablack girl, right?

they were all black girls. i remember that.and the hair, too. and like latinagirls and hispanic. i remember that. yeah, theytried it. they really tried it. and then the beautydos were all white girls. and i was just like, what? i didn't seethat. when was that? i've seen that. i remember.it was like a year ago. maya: it was last year.amy: it was last year?

it was not recent. you guys, if you doa quick google search, if you type in the word"beauty" under google images, you'll be hard-pressed tofind anything besides white. you have to dig, dig, dig. us three -- it's not fairto have this conversation when we kind of are part ofthat whole beauty standard. our features arenot threatening, whereas there's some people,for example, leslie jones.

she's beingslaughtered on social media for what i believeis being successful and not falling under the conventionof the beauty standard. she's a big black woman,dark skin, very full features, and they hacked intoher icloud, took photos and posted it onto her website. what? that's wherethey took the pictures? maya: yes.jackie:they put nudes on her website. on her own website of herself.

they put a video of the killingof harambe on her website, like obviously a racist -- yeah.amy: oh my god. maya:and compared her to a gorilla.amy: that's so sad. jackie:yeah, yeah, they're alwayscomparing her to the gorilla. and also they leakedher driver's license. they leaked her passportand all her personal info. amy: oh my god, you guys. homeland security isinvestigating the whole -- i can't believe that's going on.

they've been doing that. thewebsite hack is the biggest one. but they've been terrorizing her ever since theghostbusters thing came out. maya: for being successful.jackie: being successful, and for being black. i think that these bigcompanies that are pushing beauty, beauty,beauty -- i think they have a responsibilityto celebrate people like leslie jones and peoplethat aren't your conventional

beauty. if we can see more imagesof people that are different, then we can just be moreaccepting of people in general. okay, interesting fact: 58% of girls between the agesof eight and 18 wear makeup. jackie: eight?maya: eight and 18. 58%. now, question for all of us: do you think we'reperpetuating a culture where women are made tofeel that being perfect

requires contour and lashes? yes and no. yes and no. because i'm 29, so i'mpretty sure eight-year-olds are not really checking for me, but absolutelywe are, of course. i'd be lying if isaid that we weren't. but you have to be realistic. we're in front ofhd cameras all day, so we have to look good.

i got to text the guy next door. okay. he's super cute,super freaking beautiful. jackie: he got some friends?amy: do i know him? who you texting? maya: he just moved here.amy: oh, okay. i don't know if he hasfriends, but let's find out. we going to behis friends, though. maya: beauty iq quiz. ready?all: yay!

the question is, "mascara should bereplaced every 12 months." jackie: what?amy: nay. nay? nay. should be like -- three months, isn't it? jackie: once a month.amy: oh, really? let's see. it should bereplaced every three months. "using a concealer a shadelighter than your skin tone is the best way to coverdark circles under your eye."

maya: one shade?amy: yeah. i would go two shades,but, okay, yeah. true. yay. okay: "blottingpapers are used to blot lips after applying lipstick." nay. jackie: no.amy: nay. it's for the oil. oil. amateurs. "hemorrhoid cream can decreaseswelling under puffy eyes." i think this is a yea.i've never tried that before.

i'm going to say yea,but i've never done that. i've never tried iteither, but i feel like it's too unique to be -- yea. hemorrhoid creamscontain phenylephrine -- i don't know -- whichconstricts blood vessels and reduces swelling. amy: huh. good to know.maya: hemorrhoid cream. "mac stands for..." jackie: "makeup art cosmetics."maya: oh, makeup and cosmetics.

that's a nay. it's "makeup, art, cosmetics." yeah, you told us. okay. "parabens are used in cosmeticsas synthetic preservatives." i think that's a yea. iknow -- yes -- pthalates? "an ingredient used in manycosmetic products includes the side effects ofsperm damage and infertility." cosmetics do have pthalates,but i don't know what the side effects are, soi'm just going to say yea.

yeah, this is true,yeah. i said i don't know. oh, you're right. i said nay. jackie: oh, it's true? yeah. "l'oreal is the world's largestcosmetic and beauty company." true. yeah, they ownliterally everything. "mac is the cosmetic sponsorof the hit television show project runway."and i'm-a go with nay. jackie: i don't know.amy: i don't think so.

no, it was never mac. "cosmetics areregulated by the fda." i don't know. yea? i'm going to say yea. jackie: i don't think they are. i'm going to saynay, because that's food. you know what, nay, becauseanyone can make cosmetics and sell them. oh, it says cosmeticsare regulated by fda.

it says true. okay, you win. did i win? yay! [all cheering] hey, how you doing? come here. how you doing? maya: this is tim.tim: hi. maya: he is an awesome youtuber.amy: he's the cutest.

maya: idiscovered him on youtube. so this episode is allabout beauty standards, and i wanted to bringtim on because, well, one, amy called it out. yourlooks. your serving face. you're also a former model, and you wereassigned to a huge agency, and i wanted to knowwhat's that all about? personally, i think thatbeauty is getting to a place where you're just comfortableand confident in your own skin,

because it's just notan easy road to get there, you know what i mean? back in the day -- i don'tknow if you guys can relate, but when i was younger, ifelt maybe more beautiful maybe as a facade on the outside, but didn't feel sogood in the inside. so i think getting to aplace where you're just very self-accepting and feelingcomfortable in your own skin is when i now have thefull spectrum going on.

i've recently gotten there. amy: you have the confidence.tim: yeah. and i feel like as faras beauty standards go, i think as a guy it's different, but i don't feel tonsof pressure from society to present myself beautifully. definitely with the backgroundthat i'm coming from, i did face some adversity,i think, in beauty -- amy: in the modeling world?tim: yeah, definitely.

amy: yeah? like what?jackie: like what? staying in shape specifically. i've had agents in the pasttell me i need to lose weight. what's been one ofthe most shocking things being in the fashion industryand the modeling industry that you've witnessed, whetherit's castings or shoots? yeah. first of all, there'sa lot of issues, i think, with regulation of young modelsand people that are naive and getting into the industry.

i definitely had a couplesuper uncomfortable situations with photographers that wouldtry to do something weird. ew. but from a youngage, when i moved, my number one rule was,i would never do anything that i wouldn't tell mymom. you know what i mean? i'm super close to my mom. jackie:that's good, sound advice.amy: that's a good motto. but just from being in theindustry and meeting a lot

of girls, i think there's somuch more pressure on girls. and someone i wasreally close with had a severe eating disorder, and her agency put a ton ofpressure on her to lose weight because the more weight she lostthe more jobs she would book, and she got to thepoint where she was literally dipping cottonballs in orange juice. maya: oh, no. orange juice.jackie: i've heard that. maya: the cotton ball diet.amy: i've heard about that, too.

maya: it's fewer calories. and she also only ate babycarrots, to the point where her hands and the creases in herskin started turning orange, because there's a thing in it.maya: the dye, yeah. so i think i willedmyself into the industry just because i wanted to workin the entertainment industry so bad, so i wasalways not tall enough. i wasn'tnaturally built and ripped. so i always had toreally fight to find my place

and have a place. i quicklydeveloped a thick skin, so i'm past having insecurities. i'm just trying to bethe best version of myself, which is the underlyingmessage of my entire channel. i went to acting school,but in my heart i felt like i was auditioningfor a couple years, and i was like, i'mnot able to be a waiter and wait tables till i'm 35

and wait for thatrole to be booked, because i felt like i hadmore to offer creatively. and i hadaccumulated this laundry list of unconventional skillsets, and i didn't know how to apply them in my life. and then when the lightbulb clicked in my head -- i'm not even saying thisbecause i'm on the channel, but her day onechallenge, "be shameless," was the light bulbthat clicked in my head.

that was like, "i wantto start a youtube channel and talk about my experiences." jackie: awesome.amy: yay! amy:look how full circle that is.jackie: i know. tim: it is crazy.amy: and now you here. yeah, i'm pinchingmyself. it's insane. yeah. so i was tired ofwaiting for the phone to call, and i think that'ssuch an important message to send out to people, is that

you can be in controlof your life, your destiny and your creativity, andyou just got to be shameless. maya: do you, boo.tim: be shameless. and i have to askthis -- male model -- well, former male model -- serve us and thebooboos your blue steel. amy: oh my god, you guys.tim: little smize. amy: it's getting hot.maya: teach us. okay, so you just got towhip it, and then death stare,

smize down that camera,in three, two, let's go. okay, so i have a little --let's talk pop beauty standards. let's do it. what does theirmessage mean to you? alicia keys and herno makeup movement. have you heard about it? tim: no.jackie: i've heard of it. i'm kind of here forit, but i'm kind of not. i feel like if you'regoing to do it, just do it.

there are plenty ofwomen that do that anyway. on the other side, i get it, because she does have avoice, and she is a celebrity, and it's so againstwhat celebrities do. so, yeah, i'm herefor it in that aspect. but it was a littleextra when i first -- it was like, okay,girl, then just don't. i think with so many ofthese types of things, though, no one's going to fully jumpon the bandwagon and be like,

i'm going to not wearmakeup for the rest of my life. they're going topick and choose when, and just for someone to voicean opinion that they're like, okay, maybe it is okay today to not feel likei need to do a beat to go to the freaking gasstation -- you know what i mean? i don't want people tothink if you do wear makeup you're ashamed ofsomething or it's negative. what people don't realize,makeup is not just used

to cover. it's also artistic. i'm not going to stop wearingmakeup, because i'm good at it. tim: i totally agree.maya: my thing is, okay, so now thatyour face is all flawless, now you're not wearing makeup. because homegirl wascovering up all her acne and all that,and she had makeup. so i'm curious, well,would you make this stance if you had breakouts?

this is what she says: "i don't want tocover up anymore. not my face, not my mind,not my soul, not my thoughts, not my dreams, not my struggles,not my emotional growth. nothing." okay. that's deep, though, girl. okay, i'll give you that. so next one up on thechopping board: kim kardashian. she brought back the contourand the everyday face beat,

like, the kim k look asa standard, normal look, as an everyday going tothe gas station to pump gas. i'm not that girl. more likely than not,you'll catch me without -- if i'm notfilming, my day to day, i usually don't wear makeup. but i like both.i like both sides. i like being completely bare, and i like beingcompletely full to the nines,

long lashes, full on. next one up: wehave winnie harlow, who was here onthe slumber party. she has vitiligo,and she turned her flaws into a brand. jackie: i'm all about that.amy: i'm all about that. what's so cool about whatshe's done with her brand is that she's takensomething that, traditionally, no one would be like,

"i'm going to turnthis into a brand," and she did it herself, because we have the toolstoday to be able to do that. okay, we've gotjeffree and patrick starrr and manny mua. hi, boys. one of the topreigning beauty gurus that happen to be boys. and they'rechanging the face of beauty

and maybe eventhe sex of beauty. beauty is predominantlyrun by girls, women. what are your thoughtson men wearing makeup? when i was a kid, i wasa pretty effeminate child. i was like a gaykid. i had a lispy voice. i got picked on from preschool until i figured outthat i had to butch it up to stop being picked on. and i started playing sports.

and i wore girls'clothes and played with dolls and played withmakeup and stuff like that, and that just was so taboo andnot okay, you know what i mean? so i can't imagine whatit would be like to grow up and have iconic people likemanny and jeffree and patrick visible and attainable, because maybe i would bea totally different person. slumber party,it a slumber party, and so we playing games, y'all.

so this is beauty charades. i have no idea what's in this. ♪ ♪ weave. extensions. hair? hair extensions. there we go. you're good. you'rewinning. this ain't fair.

i know. i was like, hair. face. cold -- cheeks. botox. fillers. face fillers. face fillers? yeah, that was the word.

jackie: no, your turn.maya: oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. oh, yeah, yeah,yeah, yeah, yeah. i'm winning by alandslide, guys. amy: you really are, though. i'm not going to get this one. first word -- nose? nose. brown noser? nose job.

nose imprint? -nose hair?-nose hair? nose hair clippers. nose hair trimmer. yes. amy: oh my god. that's, like, confusing. shaving. -wax.-waxing.

meditating? spa. tanning. yeah. i just now realizedthese are all beauty. beauty, yeah. beauty charades. oh, okay. do it, girl. plucking.

tweezing? eyebrow threading? well, you were close.it was tweezing hairs. does that count? it does now. oh, i can't look. how am i going to do this? lipo? liposuction.

wow. is it yours now again? i don't know.i'll go again, though. i don't know what this-- do i know what this is? waist trainer. close. corset? oh, bustier. yeah, bustier.

you ready? yeah. this is easy. boob job. boobs? boob implants. little more formal. augmentation? breasts? breast implants.

there you go. amy and i are tied. heels? oh. okay, amy wins. [applause] go, amy. i wasn't expecting that. so this is all about beautystandards. we're talking beauty.

what about some beautysecrets? do you have -- i've got a couple up my sleeve. all of us. you first. skin and hair-related --a turmeric mask that i make from greek yogurt and turmeric, and it's theonly two ingredients. one tablespoon of yogurtand one tablespoon of turmeric. what does it do? it smooths out yourskin. it shrinks your pores.

it genuinely haschanged the texture of my skin. -really?-really? tim: yes.maya: i have to try this. and there's just a lot ofamazing benefits to turmeric. and secondly, coconut oil. i use coconut oil inmy hair and on my face. i do an overnight mask withcoconut oil, and that just -- we know about my coconut oil. it works it out. andit's just so affordable.

amy. on the oil tip,i use castor oil, because it helps toencourage hair growth, and so it's kind of amultitasking thing because usually i wear eye makeup, especially a lot of waterproofmascara and eyeliner, so whenever i wash my facethere's always going to be residue, and there'salways going to be makeup, so i use castor oil totake away not only the makeup,

but then when you put it onyour eyebrows and your lashes it helps tostimulate hair growth. two secrets, jackie. i notice that even wheni'm not wearing body oil, people are always like, "whydo you always look so glowy, and your skin isalways glowing?" and i'm like, literally, all i do is drinkthree liters of water. i think peoplereally sleep on water.

but i'm like,that, i'm always -- i can never not leavethe house without water. my beauty secret, which idon't practice, but i need to, especially now --sleep on your back. do not sleep on your side. i've heard that.i've heard that. do not sleep on your stomach. jackie: why, though?maya: this is why. this line, this line --when you sleep on your side,

when you hit 30,that's when it counts. you do not wantthis. i'm telling you. you do not want that laugh line. if you sleep onyour back, you're good. jackie: oh, i have laugh lines.maya: those are our secrets. yay. water, castoroil, coconut oil, yes. thank you so much,tim, for stopping by. thank you forhaving me. craziness. so much fun. i'll see you later.

you guys, make sure tosubscribe to tim's channel. i'll put a link right over here. check him out on socialmedia, all that fun stuff. bye, guys. do you. be true. maya: be shameless.tim: be shameless. yay, i got to say it. bye, guys. girls: bye! now in honor ofshannon being gone -- jackie: we miss you.maya: we miss you, shannon.

where you at, girl? she has a video on herchannel, a tag that she started on how to look likeme, and she takes off all her makeup, herextensions, her hair, and even the lights, so you cansee what she really looks like. so we're going to strip awayand share the true us with you. going to be vulnerable. the face beat has melted off. face beat. i'm beat.

all right. how do you guys feel? amy: i feel nice. yeah.jackie: i feel good. yeah. makeup is off. now we're goingto kill some of these lights, because lights alsoenhance the beauty. so this is shannon'stag that she created, how to look like me,where you kill the makeup, kill the lights, and -- yeah. before we wrap up, what doyou guys do to feel beautiful? dancing. i love dancing.that makes me feel beautiful.

what about you? when i get my hair done. maya: is that shallow?amy: no. i would say for me it's positiveaffirmations or something. i don't know, like lookingin the mirror daily, smiling. that's cute. i'mgoing to do that. and finally, whatmessage do you want to send to these beautifulpeople watching about beauty and maybe themisconception or realities?

don't let otherpeople's standards impact you. don't let other peopledictate how you want to portray yourself. i would say embrace change. accept what you can't change. you know, if an extra setof rolls makes me miserable, and if i can change it, insteadof complaining about it, let me go work out. or let me change my diet.

have fun. play with makeup. and if you wear a lot ofmakeup, play with no makeup. everything in moderation. maya: thank you, jackie.jackie: of course, girl. maya: amy.amy: anytime. maya: yay.jackie:i'll be back, though, right? maya: you'll be back.jackie: yes. make sure youguys like this video. share it with all your friends.

comment below and let usknow what beauty means to you, who are your beauty role models. and subscribe to this channel.i'm almost at a million. follow amy oninstagram, twitter, snapchat. all of her info is inthe description box below. amy: okay, bye.all: bye. see, on my face, i'mtatted up. i'm, like, inked up. can you see? i see it.

it's super cute, huh? super cute. i know you're[expletive] loving it. [singing songfrom the lion king]

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